Sex & Relationships

Week 5:

1 Corinthians 6:19-20; John 15:12-13; 1 Corinthians 10:13

Week 5 Discussion Guide (PDF)

MYTH 1: It’s my body, I wear what I want. If you have issues, it’s your problem.

TRUTH 1: You are not your own, for you were bought with a price

MYTH 2: Nobody’s perfect, so why try?

TRUTH 2: Sexual wholeness is possible

Discussion Questions:

  1. Share with the group your experience from last week’s personal exercise.
  2. Why might it be hard for us to accept that we should limit what we wear and how we present ourselves in order to avoid unnecessary sexual temptation for others?
  3. How is God’s standard for clothing and presenting ourselves different than what our culture says is appropriate?
  4. What types of clothes or ways of presenting ourselves (in person or online) do you think could cause unnecessary temptation to others? What could help you make that determination?
  5. Paul gives an amazing promise in 1 Corinthians 10:13, that God is faithful to always provide a way for us to avoid sin. Is that hard to believe? Why?
  6. Share with the group a time when you were tempted to sin but God was faithful to provide a way of escape that helped you avoid sin.

Personal exercise: Read 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 and John 15:12-13. Think about what you wear and how you present yourself in person and online. In prayer, ask God to reveal to you any sinful motivations you’ve had in choosing your clothes or how you present yourself. As he reveals things, ask his forgiveness and trust you have it fully in Jesus. Then think about how your clothing or ways you present yourself might unnecessarily tempt others to sin. Ask a mature Christian for help if you have questions. Decide this week to make any changes necessary. Read 1 Corinthians 10:13. In prayer, thank God for providing a way of escape from all temptation, and ask him to help you truly believe that victory over sin is possible. Revisit your decisions about practical ways to flee sexual immorality from the previous week and begin to put into place anything you haven’t yet done.


Week 4:

1 Corinthians 6:12-20; Proverbs 5:1-23; Matthew 5:27-30; James 5:16

Week 4 Discussion Guide (PDF)

MYTH: You need to experiment with sex while sigle/dating in order to know about it for marriage

TRUTH: Flee from sexual immorality!

Discussion Questions:

  1. Share with the group your experience from last week’s personal exercise.
  2. Read Proverbs 5 as a group. How would you summarize the text? How does it make you feel?
  3. The best way to flee from something bad is to run to something good. What are one or two things you’ll commit to do to this week to fill your time with something that glorifies God?
  4. One way to flee sexual immorality is to set up guardrails that keep you from unnecessary temptation. Examples might include: not taking a computer/tablet/phone into a closed room alone; leaving doors open; not watching shows/movies/videos, listening to music, or reading books that get you thinking about sex or relationships in an unhelpful way; not hanging out with a boyfriend/girlfriend/someone you like in private places alone. What guardrails could be helpful for you?
  5. As we saw in James 5:16, part of God’s plan for his people to overcome sin is for them to confess sin to each other and pray for each other. Who is one person in your life who might help you stay accountable by regularly hearing your confessions and committing to pray for you?

Personal exercise: Read 1 Corinthians 6:12-20 and Proverbs 5. Commit to three things this week. (1) Pray daily for God’s Spirit to help you resist temptation to sin. You may want to use Ephesians 6:10-20 to help you pray. (2) Ask God in prayer what guardrails you should put in place in order to avoid unnecessary temptation to sin. Begin to put them in place. (3) Ask God in prayer to help you identify a mature Christian that you could ask to help you stay accountable for sin. Reach out to that person and ask him/her to help you by regularly hearing your confession and praying for you. Set up a system for you to check in with him/her regularly.


Week 3:

1 Corinthians 6:12-20

Week 3 Discussion Guide (PDF)

MYTH 1: It doesn’t matter what I do, God will forgive me anyway

TRUTH 1: Jesus frees us from sin, not for sin

MYTH 2: It feels so right, and it’s not hurting anyone

TRUTH 2: It’s hurting you and others and insulting Jesus

Discussion Questions:

  1. Share with the group your experience from last week’s personal exercise.
  2. Why do you think many people today think sexual conduct outside of marriage isn’t a big deal?
  3. How would you respond if a friend told you that it doesn’t matter what you do, as long as you ask forgiveness afterwards?
  4. In Matthew 5:28, Jesus makes clear that sexual sin isn’t just about actions, but also thoughts and desires. How would you describe to a friend what thoughts and feelings are OK? What thoughts and feelings are not OK?
  5. There are many harmful consequences of sexual sin. Which ones do you think are the most harmful? Why?
  6. We have all been negatively affected by sexual sin in some way. Share a way that sexual sin (your own or someone else’s) has negatively impacted you.

Personal exercise: Read 1 Corinthians 6:12-20. From the passage, write out a list of a few things that Jesus has saved you FOR. Now write out a list of a few things that Jesus has saved you FROM. Thank Jesus for saving you, and ask him to help you live into his awesome purpose for you this week. Be prepared to share your experience with your rGroup next week.


Week 2:

Genesis 2:18, 21-25; 1 Corinthians 7:1-10

Week 2 Discussion Guide (PDF)

MYTH: Christians are anti-sex

TRUTH: God is pro-sex within his good plan for sexual fulfillment between one husband and one wife in one marriage for one life

Discussion Questions:

  1. Share with the group your experience from last week’s personal exercise.
  2. Why do you think some people view Christians as anti-sex?
  3. If you were talking to a friend, how would you summarize the Bible’s teaching on God’s plan for sex and marriage from Genesis 2 and 1 Corinthians 7?
  4. What surprises you or challenges you about these passages from Genesis 2 and 1 Corinthians 7?
  5. Why do you think some people, even knowing God’s plan for sex and relationships, might still dislike God’s plan?

Personal exercise: Read Genesis 2:18-25 and 1 Corinthians 7:1-10. Write down a summary of your understanding of God’s plan for sex and marriage. Write down any questions or objections you may have with it, and ask God to help you understand and be excited about his good plan, for yourself and/or for others. Whatever situation you are in, ask God to help you honor him with your sexuality. Be prepared to share any questions or thoughts you have with your rGroup next week.


Week 1:

1 Corinthians 1:8-9; 1 Corinthians 6:9-11

Week 1 Discussion Guide (PDF)

-MYTH: I’m “damaged goods” sexually, so I’m unfit for God, for marriage, or for sexual wholeness

-TRUTH: God can redeem and bring wholeness to all things, including sexuality

Discussion questions:

  1. What questions do you have about God’s plan for sex and relationships?
  2. Why might people think that their past sin disqualifies them from God’s good plan for sex and relationships?
  3. How does it change things to know that God can bring healing and wholeness to every area of our lives, including sexuality and romantic relationships?
  4. When we turn sin over to Jesus, Paul tells us that we’re “washed,” meaning we’re clean and no longer need to feel any shame or guilt over past sin. How does that make you feel? Do you struggle with letting go of shame and guilt? Why do you think that is?
  5. When we put our faith in Jesus, Paul also tells us that we’re “justified.” Here, that means that God declares us righteous (good) based on Jesus’ perfection regardless of our own failures. How does that make you feel towards God? How should you respond to God in light of that?

Personal exercise: Read 1 Corinthians 6:9-11. Nobody is sexually perfect, but God can bring sexual wholeness to everyone. It begins with giving sexual sin over to God. Take some time this week and write out a list of sexual sin in your life, confess it to God in prayer, ask his forgiveness, thank him that you have it in Jesus, and ask him to free you from continued guilt and shame for past sin. Ask him to help you honor him with the new life he’s given you in Jesus. Be prepared to share with your rGroup next week how this exercise impacted you.